Daar’s lewe na hakkel!
|My seun het gehakkel vandat hy begin praat het. Op 21 het hy met die McGuire program in aanraking gekom. Hier is sy ervaring daarvan:
I’m sure you’ve heard or read this little line plenty of times before, but just to make sure, here it is again: McGuire changed my life!
Being a (pretty successful) covert stammerer, I was a master at the art of avoidance. I perfected this art to such an extent that most of the people that knew me for years did not have a clue about my little stuttering skeleton in the closet. So yeah, I did not stammer much, but that does not mean I was a happy chappy – not by a long shot!
Being a master avoider of words, I became a rather irritating guy to listen to. Sure I could always find another word when it felt like the first one would get stuck in my throat, but that substitute never quite conveyed the correct meaning. If you’ve ever tried to write music lyrics, you would know the thought of ‘that just doesn’t sound right’ even though your lyrics might make perfect logical sense, rhyme well and everything. That was my problem: I just didn’t sound right. The substitute words just never carried my exact thoughts and feelings over to my listener.
Being a master avoider of situations was even worse. By definition, this ‘skill’ made me a plain common spineless coward. I avoided any situation that even remotely posed a threat of exposing me as guilty of the cardinal sin – stammering. Thus I avoided any situations where I might have to speak under pressure, and as you can probably imagine, my already small world begun to shrink even more as I sneaked deeper and deeper into the deep dark depths of my comfort zone.
This, most probably, is one of the most emasculating feelings anyone can experience – being held hostage by nothing more than a few of your own vocally retarded brain cells. I once described myself to my ever patient mother as a supercomputer without a screen – I’ve got all these awesome ideas and stuff going on inside, but no-one can see it. Sad, so sad – what a sad, sad situation… and it was getting more and more absurd by the day.
But then came McGuire. McGuire taught me to face my fears, to expand my comfort zone and to face every challenge head on – all of which are applicable to every human being on this planet, fluent or not.
Maybe most importantly; McGuire taught me to be honest about being a ‘recovering stammerer’. To my great amazement I did not die when I did my first disclosure – not even a faint stroke or pseudo heart attack. I lived through that one, and the next one and the next…
I can honestly say that in the sixteen months that I have been on the program, I have achieved more than in the previous twenty two years combined, simply by applying the vital life skills taught to me in the McGuire problem. For the first time in my life, I am actually glad that I was born with a stutter, for without it I would never have learned these awesome life skills. I’m not gonna lie to you – it truly gives you an unfair advantage over the competition – fluent or not…
Ever heard of the phrase ‘the geek shall inherit the earth’? Give McGuire enough time and we’ll soon have a new one: ‘the stammerer shall inherit the earth’…