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Die liewe internet!

InformationOh, the internet – that amazing global collaboration that brings the world to a digital device near you.

Like all awesome technological progress, it also brings plenty of problems. In this case, it’s the huge amount of useless or even dangerous information it puts at your fingertips.

Let’s see how we can sort the digital wheat from the chaff.

Honestly assess your information diet

recent post likened the abundant information from the digital revolution to the abundant calories from the agricultural revolution.

Calories are food for our bodies. Information is food for our minds. 

So, how’s your mental diet been lately? Do you feed your mind with healthy amounts of wisdom-rich information? Or is it more like one long empty information binge?

Empty information is just like empty calories: great for instant endorphin releases, terrible for long-term health and vitality. 

Cutting out empty information is key to a healthy digital diet.

Video streaming

Digital video entertainment offers an excellent example of this comparison between information and food: 

  • Semi-illegal streaming of series and movies is like dirt-cheap empty calories. A decidedly average experience that makes you prone to catching some nasty viruses, but oh so addictive.
  • Budget subscription platforms like Netflix are like a cheap all-you-can-eat buffet. To get good value from your purchase, you have to stuff yourself to bursting point.
  • Platforms like Google Play where you pay for what you watch promote quality over quantity. This is like buying a fine chocolate and enjoying it slowly, preferably with friends.
  • Going to see a highly rated new movie in the cinema is like a fine dining experience.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that the last two are much preferred to the first two.

Just like food, endorphins from digital treats are sometimes useful to improve mood or enhance a nice social situation. And just like food, we should focus on healthier snacking.

The key bit of wisdom in the above-linked post goes thusly: if you can’t get yourself to pay for a healthier snack, you clearly don’t need it.

So, it’s either healthy digital snacking or no digital snacking. 

It’s not just video

This simple rule works for any other type of online information.

Online news offers a highly topical example in these virus-infested times. Having all the world’s problems conveniently summarized at your fingertips is a smooth highway to overwhelm and anxiety.

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Wees slimmer as jou slimfoon!

SlimfoonMy oudste trek nou heel toevallig met sy blog by die maniere waarop ons tegnologie kan bestuur:

The smartphone is one of the sharpest parts on the double-edged sword of the digital revolution.

It put the world at our fingertips, but, in so doing, it created the most distracted and overwhelmed generation ever.

As always, today’s post is all about swiping right on the good and left the bad.


As the world is finally cracking down on smoking, saving millions of lives, a new addiction is quickly filling that void: notifications

Addiction is horrible for the user, but great for sales and even better for profits. Tobacco companies exploited this despicable marketing strategy for decades. Now it’s the turn of app developers.

And notifications lie at the heart of this digital addiction: that hypnotic “ping” or alluring little number on an icon telling you that someone liked the selfie you just posted.

Indeed, notifications are highly addictive and extraordinarily distracting.

Turn them off.

All of them (including email).

Your phone should only demand your attention for calls, texts and important reminders.  

Addictive apps

There are countless apps out there that essentially sell distraction. Why on Earth would the most distracted generation in history pay good money for more distraction?

Simple: addiction.

Here’s a simple 3-step digital detox strategy:

  1. Classify: Carefully consider each installed app and classify it as either essential or addictive.
  2. Clean: Delete all addictive apps without which you’ll still be able to breathe.
  3. Rearrange: Shift apps around as follows:
    1. Essential apps on the home screen
    2. Non-classified apps on the next screen (so you have to swipe at least once to see them)
    3. Addictive apps you literally can’t live without on the last screen (so they’re multiple swipes away)


A smartphone is great for getting information on demand, but there are many tasks where your PC is a way better tool.

Here are three examples of badly inefficient smartphone tasks:

  1. Writing longer messages, emails or documents.
  2. Doing serious online research (you phone is OK for some of life’s big questions like why dogs eat grass and cats are scared of cucumbers).
  3. Online shopping.

Who owns who?

Do you own your phone or is it the other way around? Be honest now…

If you’re in full control of when you use this digital tool, you’re the owner and all is well.

If this digital tool regularly takes control of your actions, you’re the owned and have a serious problem.

Rule your phone with an iron first that will make the world’s worst dictators squirm. There should be no doubt about who’s the boss 😉


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Net een treetjie op ‘n slag is nodig

everydaymaynotbe-min2Die idee van “mini-habits” of selfs “atomic habits” is deesdae oral om ons. Doodeenvoudig: Stel vir jouself sulke klein doelwitte dat jy feitlik nie kan misluk nie. Sodoende verseker jy eintlik jou sukses en word dit soveel makliker om vol te hou met wat jy ook al wil verbeter in jou lewe. Hier is die idee van net met 1% verbeter in ‘n week:
(Moenie skrik vir die grafiek nie – jy kan hom maar ignoreer ook! 🙂 )

A 1% improvement sounds like nothing, right? Anyone could become 1% better in a week if they tried.

However, when you unleash the superpower of consistency on this simple idea, it takes on a whole new form. The numbers tell the story:

  • Improve by 1% every week for a year and you’ll be 66% better. Not bad.
  • 2 years? 179%.
  • 5 years? Thanks to the power of compounding, 5 years of 1% weekly improvements will make you a whopping 13 times better!
  • After 15 years (only a third of a standard career), it gets pretty ridiculous: 2325 times better! Now we are getting to the realm of billionaires, presidents and great inventors.

These numbers told me to end each Supermorning week with a 1% improvement post. So, here are my top 3 improvements over the past week:

  1. Started this blog and kept to my daily post commitment
  2. Totally clean eating habits and 10 hours of light-to-moderate exercise
  3. Published an article in the largest publication on Medium

In fact, this week was much more than 1% improvement 🙂 You can see the sharp upwards spike in my daily consistency data below (the little red bit). I really hope I can maintain this performance!

Did you grow your 1% this week? Any plans for how you can grow 1% next week? Feel free to share – a little commitment here could make a big difference!

The graph shows my cumulative performance against a target of 35 points daily. Up to now, I have only been averaging a bit more than 33 points per day, hence the slow downwards trend. 33 points per day is still good, but I really want to get back above the 35 point target!

Week 1 of getting 1% better



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My oudste gebruik sy eie en my swaarkry om met hierdie konsep vorendag te kom: Die eenvoudige gedagte dat jou dag soveel beter is wanneer jy die oggend op die regte/beste manier begin.

SupermanhondjieSuperheros have been part of our culture forever. In the old days, they shaped mythology. More recently, they commanded a dedicated group of comic-book fans. And today, they have taken over the silver screen.

Why do we love superheros so much? Aside from awesome action and special effects, they offer a unique brand of escapism into a world where people can fly, teleport or shoot lasers out of their eyes.

Sadly, the real world is much more bland and boring. But it has its own bland and boring superpower: consistency. As unsexy as it sounds, this amazing superpower can give you everything you want out of life.

Consistency is the power to command your own body and mind. Very few people have mastered this dormant superpower within them. That’s why so few of us are in great shape, financially free and performing at our true potential.

But the good news is that anyone can awaken this awesome power that lies within. This origin moment is an important part of every superhero story – a story that can also be yours!

My hope is that this blog can give you your own origin moment and help push you through the subsequent training montage. Since we are stuck in the real world, it will take a couple of years, not a couple of minutes like in the movies. But the results can be just as magical.

As homage to the superpower of consistency, I will consistently publish a daily post that will arrive in your inbox at 6 am (GMT +2). This quick 1-2 minute read will provide a little nudge in the right direction every single morning.

And as these little nudges accumulate, your own superpower of consistency will take form.

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Die waarde van ‘n drukkie

Drukkie bewegend.gifEk het – soos seker baie van my tydgenote – nie met drukkies grootgeword nie. Nog minder met openlike verklarings van liefde tussen familie of vriende. Maar wel met die soen-op-die-mond-gewoonte. Nogal ʼn vreemde teenstelling, as mens mooi daaroor dink.

Vandag werk dinge natuurlik meestal andersom. Mondsoene word in my kringe deesdae vir die geliefde gereserveer, of dalk vir ouer familie wat nog in die gewoonte is en dalk kan aanstoot neem as dinge nou skielik verander. Eintlik is dit so ʼn intieme handeling dat ek my amper nie ʼn tyd kan voorstel toe dit algemeen was tussen al wat leef en beef nie. Dink net aan die kieme … J Om nie eens van die snorre en baarde te praat nie. Mens hoef maar net bietjie rond te vra en jy hoor vele stories van kinders wat (vir hulle) grillerige ooms of tantes moes soen. Persoonlik het ek ‘n paar storietjies wat ek dalk nie hier moet deel nie. J Die meeste van hulle behels ‘n skaam dogtertjie en volwasse manlike familielede – of selfs ‘n skaam Read the rest of this entry »


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Moet ek my depressie aanvaar?

Depressie 1Hulle sê mos mens kan jou vriende kies, maar nie jou familie nie. Hulle moet jy maar aanvaar en die beste van die saak maak. As jy gelukkig is, kan julle vriende wees. Indien nie, kan jy óf die bande verbreek en jou lewe lank skuldig voel (en baie goeie dinge misloop), óf jou mense aanvaar soos hulle is en leer liefkry soos hulle is.

Depressie is vir party van ons soos daardie spreekwoordelike broer in die tronk. Niemand kies dit nie. Maar ontslae raak? Nie so maklik nie.

Natuurlik is daar die gelukkiges wat depressief raak, die regte medikasie kry en siedaar – binne ‘n paar maande is alles weer reg en die monster vir ewig oorwin. Vir baie Read the rest of this entry »


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Wanneer alles te veel word

Depressie 2Hierdie is ‘n stokou post, maar vandag weer relevant omdat dit selfdoodvoorkomingsdag was:

Ek het onlangs die twyfelagtige voorreg gehad om ‘n dierbare tannie van 88 te probeer bystaan na die selfdood van haar enigste (stief)seun. Die eerste ding wat ek besef het, is dat dit irrelevant is dat hy haar stiefseun is. Sy het hom liefgehad en hy was haar kind, bloedfamilie of nie bloedfamilie nie.
Gelukkig het ek al geleer ‘n mens hoef nie met allerhande goedkoop wysheid en trooswoorde by so iemand aan te kom nie. En dankie tog vir die drukkie-kultuur waarin ons deesdae leef, want ook hier geld die bekende actions speak louder than words. En daar is min sulke eenvoudige aksies wat soveel sê soos ‘n doodgewone drukkie.
Deur die genade het ek nog nie iemand naby aan my so verloor nie. Maar ek het al rondom my genoeg gesien van die verwoesting wat selfdood saai in die mense wat agterbly. En ek was al daar waar ek dit self oorweeg het (lank, lank gelede in ‘n vorige lewe van probeer wees wat ek nie regtig is nie).
In die proses het ek ‘n paar dinge geleer.
Eerstens: Na my mening is selfdood nie ‘n lafhartige daad nie. Dit vat veel meer as ‘n lafaard om so-iets te dink, wat nog te sê uit te voer. Selfdood is ‘n wanhoopsdaad wat met lafhartigheid niks te make het nie.
Tweedens: Die gedagte/begeerte om ‘n einde aan alles te maak, is ‘n ding wat jou stilletjies, ongemerk kan bekruip. Vandag duik hy hier vinnig op, more steek hy sy kop op ‘n ander plek uit … Voor jy jou kom kry, is jy gewoond aan hom. En hy begin lyk vir jou na ‘n oplossing.
Derdens: Die skade aan die mense wat agterbly is onberekenbaar. En ek dink grootliks onherstelbaar. As so ‘n wanhopige persoon net ‘n vinnige toekomsflits van sy mense se smart en verwarring kon sien, sou dit waarskynlik vir die meeste mense genoeg wees om hulle twee keer te laat dink.
Vierdens: Die mense wat agterbly, ervaar geweldige hartseer en geweldige skuldgevoelens. Maar ook woede. En hulle besef nie altyd dis heeltemal normaal nie.
Vyfdens: Die algemene publiek staan geweldig onverskillig teenoor selfdood en veroordeel so ‘n persoon baie maklik. Jan Alleman het duidelik nie die vaagste benul van die soort wanhoop wat ‘n medemens tot so-iets kan dryf nie.
Sesdens: ‘n Selfdooddreigement moet altyd, altyd, altyd ernstig opgeneem word. Dis ‘n noodoproep, ‘n roep om hulp.
Sewende: Depressie speel dikwels ‘n rol. Depressie moet nie onderskat word nie. Nooit nie.
Nommer ag: Daar is nog Christene wat maklik vinger wys na selfmoordenaars en reken hulle gaan reguit hel toe. My mening? ‘n Mens moet altyd onthou minstens drie vingers wys na jou self …
En laastens: Die lewe is oneindig kosbaar. Vier dit solank jy die kans het! Read the rest of this entry »


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